What does it take to make new quality friends?
First and foremost, you gotta be a quality friend. So what does that mean? You gotta
ask real questions, you wanna learn about what people are thinking, what they’re feeling,
not just what they did this weekend, where they’re going, whatever, whatever. You gotta
go inside. If you’re only talking about surface things, you’re not creating a deeper connection,
and those aren’t relationships that last. And on top of trying to really get to know
them and to go deeper inside them, you gotta be willing to let them really going inside
of you and get to know you too. Not just, “Oh, I did this and that happened,” and whatever.
How did you feel about that? What was that like for you? Really let people in and see
what your experience of life is. Don’t necessarily just fill your conversations with details
about events. If you wanna make quality friends, it’s all about going within. So in sum, number
(1) be a quality friend, number (2) be lovingly curious to really know who they are, and number
(3) let them know your real thoughts and feelings. That’s where the real connection comes from. Good luck.